Why does he flirt with other girls

He flirts with other girls right in front of you. Or, worse, he does it behind your back. Um, hello, alarm bells! He dry humps other women on the dance floor. WTF is going on there?

He buys other women drinks but always forgets yours. He might just be being friendly. Think about it: What is he trying to prove to this girl and what do his actions tell her? He teases other women in an affectionate way. The fact of the matter is that your boyfriend should not be teasing other girls like this.

When you pick up on it, you seriously need to take off. He talks crap about you to the other women in his life. Your partner is not your father: you have no basis for assuming he will have affairs because your father did. You could, if you chose, interpret your partner's behaviour quite differently. You say he finds women attractive, and it sounds as if he can usually win their interest. Despite this, he wishes to be with - and stay with - you.

We all hope to be indulged when we ask for something from a loved one, and indeed it would be desirable for you if your partner immediately ceased all flirting. But most flashpoints in relationships can be resolved through mutual compromise rather than one-sided acquiescence - and neither of you is offering any such accommodation.

Let us now consider the choices available to you. Given that your partner refuses to stop flirting, you could leave him. However, if you hope to find someone who will oblige your every request, I think you will be looking for a long time - at least, to find someone as exciting as your partner. Alternatively, you could give him an ultimatum: if he does not stop flirting, you will leave.

However, if you demand this, there is no reason why he should not make similarly absolutist demands on you to change whenever anything you do upsets him. You could regard your father's affairs as a psychological trauma, and seek treatment so this no longer dominates your reaction to your partner's flirtations. That seems rather heavy-handed, but it is an option nonetheless. Finally, you could resolve to react differently to your partner's behaviour.

Tell him you trust him, and instead of watching his every move, enjoy the social occasions you share. This has one risk. If he is very insecure and needs your constant jealous attention for reassurance, he will flirt even more outrageously. But if he does, you will need to ask yourself if you want to stay with such a manipulative person. In truth, it is more likely that he would be delighted with your more trusting reaction.

He would no longer need to feel defensive, and might even act more considerately. But however he responds, you would be able to enjoy life a great deal more. Linda Blair. I am 35, with a year-old partner, and am concerned about the time I have left to have a child. We have been together for two years and are saving to buy a house. I have asked him to consider trying for a child in two years, providing we are still stable and happy, but he says he cannot guarantee that he will want to.

He does want children but doesn't know when. I am worried that his "when" will be too late for me, and I will be left childless or, worse, he may leave me for a younger woman. I think the issue is that he is slightly too young to think about this - none of his friends has children yet. We haven't discussed marriage - mainly because I am divorced and no longer see it as the be all and end all.

Both of us view buying a house together as the main commitment to one another. We plan to work abroad together and our future as a couple is fairly certain - it's just this issue of children. Do I take the risk, stay patient and hope he will be ready soon, or leave a wonderful man and relationship and look for someone who wants a family sooner?

We have discussed the situation at length and I have been clear about my concerns. I would like both of us to be totally happy about the prospect of having a child and I am reluctant to try to "persuade" him to have one before he is ready.

You are invited to respond to this week's main problem. If a guy recently flirted with another girl in front of you then you might be wondering why and what it might mean about the way that he feels about you.

This post will show you why he might have flirted with another girl in front of you and why other guys might do it in the future. So, what does it mean when a guy flirts with another girl in front of you? If he is a guy that you are dating then it would be likely that he is doing it to make you jealous.

By considering the body language that he was showing and your past relationship with him it will make it easier to understand why he would have done it.

Each of the different reasons why a guy will flirt with another girl in front of you will likely come with a number of clues in the way that he did it and the body language that he showed. Below, I will show you a number of reasons why a guy will flirt with a girl in front of you, the signs to look for and the things to consider.

If he is a guy that you have been dating or if he is your boyfriend then it would make it likely that he was flirting with her to make you jealous. The reason that he might have flirted with her to make you jealous would likely have been to make you feel like he could leave you or stop seeing you if he wanted to and to get you to feel like you need to chase him more.

If this is the case, then it would be more likely that he would do it more when you are around and he would do it specifically when he knows you are watching. If he is flirting with another girl to make you jealous then it would be a strong sign that he would likely cause other problems if you were to get into a relationship with him.